When your parents were married to each other, they may have talked about who you remind them of. Maybe you look like your father or sing like your mother. Maybe you’re more animated like your father or more analytical like your mother. Perhaps you’ve picked up some of the habits of your father or mother that remind your parents of what the other was like when they were younger.
After your parents divorce though, these qualities may take on a whole new meaning – one that is less positive and care free. Maybe your mannerisms remind your mother of your father or vice versa. If she hasn’t gotten past her anger towards him, your mannerism may begin to rub her the wrong way. Maybe you’ve heard something like:
“You’re irresponsible and inconsiderate of other people – just like your Father!”
It’s not fair of your mother to put you in that position, but then she isn’t acting like herself these days anyhow. What can you do when one parent is irritated by your actions or your appearance or your mannerisms just because they remind them of your other parent?