Identifying, Naming and Recognizing Your Feelings (A New Resource)

MFW Title Page ExcerptHere at I Am A Child of Divorce, we are pleased to announce the release of a brand new resource developed in conjunction with Divorce Ministry 4 Kids.  The new book entitled “My Feelings Workbook” is designed to help kids, teens and adults to name the emotions they are feeling, and recognize what they are feeling.  Designed specifically for children of divorce, we hope that this free e-book will be helpful to all those who use it.

As we explain in the book,

Part of the battle every child faces during, and following, the divorce of their parents is dealing with the intense emotions that accompany that time in their lives. Sometimes these represent brand new emotions, and other times they represent known emotions which are felt much more intensely because of the divorce.

 In working with children of divorce, a significant step in the healing process lies in teaching kids to recognize and name their emotions. That is the purpose of this book. In reading about, and thinking about, each of the emotions contained in this book, children will begin to recognize what is going on inside and be able to express that to other people. Recognizing these feeling does not equate to closure, but in talking about these feelings, they can find a measure of healing.

04-Emotions2-580Although this workbook was originally envisioned and compiled for children of divorce, after developing the book, we realized that this exercise of recognizing and naming emotions could also be useful for other children:

  • Children facing other challenges in life
  • Younger children learning how to express themselves or dealing with emotional trauma,
  • Teens
  • And even for adults.

The book covers 50 different emotions that children or teens may face during or after their parents’ divorce.  These emotions, and their associated emoticons, are presented on two index pages at the beginning of the book.  These pages can be scanned and used in trying to determine how the user feels at any given point.  The emoticons provide younger children with visual clues as to what each emotion represents.

48-Scared-580There is an individual emotion page dedicated to each one of the fifty emotions (you can see the example for “Scared” here.  Each colorful emotion page displays the name of the emotion and the associated emoticon.  A “kid friendly” definition is provided for each emotion, and various exercises designed to help the user better understand each emotion and how it affects them personally.

Each emotion includes exercises labeled “When I Am Feeling _____” and “What Makes Me Feel _____?”  The “When I Am Feeling _____” section on each page encourages the user to write about, or draw, what their face, body and insides might look like when they are feeling a particular emotion.  The “What Makes Me Feel _____?” includes two boxes, one with a green check mark and one with a red x, to draw or list out times, people and things that do and do not make the user feel that particular emotion.  Each page is set up the same way so younger kids should need minimal guidance in using the resource.

Our sincere hope is that, in completing the exercises in this workbook, children of divorce (or any person) will be in a better position to recognize and talk about the emotions they are feeling.  This is an important step in healing and moving forward.

In addition to the free pdf e-book available here, you can also view the entire book online and print individual pages here.  You can also download individual graphic files for each page which your child could color/edit electronically in programs like Microsoft Paint (Fresh Paint for Windows 8), Mac Paintbrush or various tablet and smart phone applications.