The Resource Center

There are not enough good resources out there for children of divorce, but there are some. On this page, we will feature external resources which you might find useful.

RESOURCES FOR KIDS

My Family’s Changing Activity Book for Children

Background

This activity book was developed and published by Cafcass (Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service) in England. “Every year Cafcass helps over 140,000 children and young people who are going through care or adoption proceedings, or whose parents have separated and are unable to agree about future arrangements for their children. Cafcass is the voice of children in the family courts and helps to ensure that children’s welfare is put first during proceedings.”

How It Works

This pdf activity book is colorfully illustrated and offers kids activities to complete in addition to answering basic questions they might have about their parents’ divorce. This pamphlet offers very basic information to educate and help kids dealing with these difficult circumstances.

Who is It For?

This book is specifically designed for younger elementary aged children.

CHaT First Board Game for Children of Divorce

CHaT First is a website from the Children and Families in Transition Project a partnership between the Centre for Peace, Conflict and Mediation, Hawke research Institute, University of South Australia and Centacare Catholic Family Services (SA), with generous support from the Telstra Foundation.  It is full of information for children and teens whose parents have separated or divorced. One of the best resources is a printable board game called the CHaT First Board game.

How It Works

The CHaT First Board Game is a question and answer board game that encourages kids and teens to answer questions from one of four decks of cards. Players take turns rolling the dice and moving along the board. This game is not about winners and losers but about the experience shared together.

Who is It For?

This is for all children who have experienced, or are experiencing, their parents divorce. It will also benefit parents and other adults who want to help those kids.

Resource: Emotion Wheels

Emotion wheels can be great tools for helping you to figure out what your feeling, introduce you to new emotions and help you to figure out what emotions might be underlying why you’re feeling. This first wheel was created by Dr. Gloria Wilcox who is a licensed...

The Anger-ometer (Tracking Your Anger In Order to Deal With It)

If your parents are separated or divorced, there is a good chance you will experience anger at some point in the process.  There is nothing wrong with being angry.  How we choose to deal with that anger is important.  If we keep it all bottled up inside, we will...

Register For An Online Support Group for Teen Children of Divorce

We are please to officially announce the beginning of I Am A Child of Divorce support groups.  These groups are intended children of divorce find hope and healing in the aftermath of their parents’ separation or divorce. Groups are free to participate in and will...

A Mini-book About Feelings For Kids

This miniature book about feelings for kids comes to us from Scholastic.com.  That’s right, the people known for school book fairs and those book order forms that your kids bring home all the time also offers a series of mini printable books for kids. This particular...

An Explanation of Divorce for Kids (KidsHealth.org)

From KidsHealth.org, this article is a guide to divorce written specifically for kids.  The article explains that "Divorce Is Tough For Everyone," and includes the important reminders that "Kids Don't Cause Divorce" and "Kids Can't Fix Divorce."  If your parents are...

Identifying, Naming and Recognizing Your Feelings (A New Resource)

Here at I Am A Child of Divorce, we are pleased to announce the release of a brand new resource developed in conjunction with Divorce Ministry 4 Kids.  The new book entitled “My Feelings Workbook” is designed to help kids, teens and adults to name the emotions they...

RESOURCE FOR TEENS

My Family’s Changing Activity Book for Teens

Background

This activity book was developed and published by Cafcass (Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service) in England. “Every year Cafcass helps over 140,000 children and young people who are going through care or adoption proceedings, or whose parents have separated and are unable to agree about future arrangements for their children. Cafcass is the voice of children in the family courts and helps to ensure that children’s welfare is put first during proceedings.”

How It Works

This pdf activity book is colorfully illustrated and offers older kids and teens activities to complete in addition to answering questions they might have about their parents’ divorce. This pamphlet offers very basic information to educate and help older kids and teens dealing with these difficult circumstances.

Who is It For?

This book is specifically designed for older children and teens.

CHaT First Board Game for Children of Divorce

CHaT First is a website from the Children and Families in Transition Project a partnership between the Centre for Peace, Conflict and Mediation, Hawke research Institute, University of South Australia and Centacare Catholic Family Services (SA), with generous support from the Telstra Foundation.  It is full of information for children and teens whose parents have separated or divorced. One of the best resources is a printable board game called the CHaT First Board game.

How It Works

The CHaT First Board Game is a question and answer board game that encourages kids and teens to answer questions from one of four decks of cards. Players take turns rolling the dice and moving along the board. This game is not about winners and losers but about the experience shared together.

Who is It For?

This is for all children who have experienced, or are experiencing, their parents divorce. It will also benefit parents and other adults who want to help those kids.

Resource: Emotion Wheels

Emotion wheels can be great tools for helping you to figure out what your feeling, introduce you to new emotions and help you to figure out what emotions might be underlying why you’re feeling. This first wheel was created by Dr. Gloria Wilcox who is a licensed...

Teen Between: Support For Teenagers of Separated Parents

Teen Between is a resource out of Ireland designed to help teens from divorcing families and to help parents and schools to help teens through the divorce process.  Teen Between offers in person counseling services all around the country of Ireland.  They also have an...

Help Us Promote Our Online Support Group for Teens

Registration for our pilot online teen support group ends April 30th, and we are asking for your help to promote that program.  We have created a flier promoting the upcoming group.  We invite you to print out copies of the flier and hang them at your local community...

Families Change – Teen Guide to Separation and Divorce

This site is from the Justice Education Society in British Columbia. It is a guide for teens to parental separation and divorce. Written on a teen level it deals with what is happening, changes, emotions, strategies, the law, and frequently asked questions. The...

What Is It Like When Your Parents Get Divorced?

This article from SafeTeen.org helps teens to understand how they might feel following the divorce of their parents and things they can do to help.  Although brief, this article provides a good overview and some sound suggestions.  The article explains: Your parents...

The Anger-ometer (Tracking Your Anger In Order to Deal With It)

If your parents are separated or divorced, there is a good chance you will experience anger at some point in the process.  There is nothing wrong with being angry.  How we choose to deal with that anger is important.  If we keep it all bottled up inside, we will...

Teen Online Support Group Video

We made the following video to announce the launch of our I Am A Child of Divorce Teen Support Groups, and we are excited to share it with you! For more information on our groups, and to register for our upcoming April 2013 group, please visit...

RESOURCE FOR ADULTS

Resources for Adult Children of Divorce

CHaT First Board Game for Children of Divorce

CHaT First is a website from the Children and Families in Transition Project a partnership between the Centre for Peace, Conflict and Mediation, Hawke research Institute, University of South Australia and Centacare Catholic Family Services (SA), with generous support from the Telstra Foundation.  It is full of information for children and teens whose parents have separated or divorced. One of the best resources is a printable board game called the CHaT First Board game.

How It Works

The CHaT First Board Game is a question and answer board game that encourages kids and teens to answer questions from one of four decks of cards. Players take turns rolling the dice and moving along the board. This game is not about winners and losers but about the experience shared together.

Who is It For?

This is for all children who have experienced, or are experiencing, their parents divorce. It will also benefit parents and other adults who want to help those kids.

Resource: Emotion Wheels

Emotion wheels can be great tools for helping you to figure out what your feeling, introduce you to new emotions and help you to figure out what emotions might be underlying why you’re feeling. This first wheel was created by Dr. Gloria Wilcox who is a licensed...

Identifying, Naming and Recognizing Your Feelings (A New Resource)

Here at I Am A Child of Divorce, we are pleased to announce the release of a brand new resource developed in conjunction with Divorce Ministry 4 Kids.  The new book entitled “My Feelings Workbook” is designed to help kids, teens and adults to name the emotions they...

Free Books for Children of Divorce

Donald Harting is a child of divorce.  His parents separated when he was eight years old and divorced when he was 15.  He knows what it is like to lose an intact family and deal with the repercussions of divorce.  As a way to honor his parents, he has built a living...

Chained No More: Healing for Adult Children of Divorce

Research shows that divorce impacts children well into their adult years.  In fact Judith Wallerstein and her colleagues identified a “sleeper effect” where many children of divorce don’t even experience the full impact of the their parents’ divorce until years later...

Resources for Parents

CHaT First Board Game for Children of Divorce

CHaT First is a website from the Children and Families in Transition Project a partnership between the Centre for Peace, Conflict and Mediation, Hawke research Institute, University of South Australia and Centacare Catholic Family Services (SA), with generous support from the Telstra Foundation.  It is full of information for children and teens whose parents have separated or divorced. One of the best resources is a printable board game called the CHaT First Board game.

How It Works

The CHaT First Board Game is a question and answer board game that encourages kids and teens to answer questions from one of four decks of cards. Players take turns rolling the dice and moving along the board. This game is not about winners and losers but about the experience shared together.

Who is It For?

This is for all children who have experienced, or are experiencing, their parents divorce. It will also benefit parents and other adults who want to help those kids.

Resource: Emotion Wheels

Emotion wheels can be great tools for helping you to figure out what your feeling, introduce you to new emotions and help you to figure out what emotions might be underlying why you’re feeling. This first wheel was created by Dr. Gloria Wilcox who is a licensed...

Teen Between: Support For Teenagers of Separated Parents

Teen Between is a resource out of Ireland designed to help teens from divorcing families and to help parents and schools to help teens through the divorce process.  Teen Between offers in person counseling services all around the country of Ireland.  They also have an...

Helping Infants and Toddlers Adjust to Divorce (MU Extension)

From MU Extension at the University of Missouri-Columbia, this resource specifically addresses how divorce impacts infants and toddlers.  Too many people believe that divorce does not impact these kids because they are young.  This couldn’t be further from the truth....

Helping Children Understand Divorce (MU Extension)

From MU Extension at the University of Missouri-Columbia, the purpose of this resource is to provide parents and other adults with guidance on how to help children understand their parents’ divorce.  It includes information on how to tell children about divorce and...

How To Put Children First in Divorce (Child Centered Solutions)

Many parents lose sight of their children’s needs during a divorce.  That is why we were excited to find this pamphlet from child centered solutions is designed to help parents to keep their children’s needs first when going through a divorce.  The pamphlet addresses...

Activities for Helping Children Deal With Divorce (MU Extension)

From MU Extension at the University of Missouri-Columbia, this resources suggests a multitude of activities that parents can do with their children to “help them work through their feelings, concerns and frustrations regarding the divorce.”  Though specifically...

Register For An Online Support Group for Teen Children of Divorce

We are please to officially announce the beginning of I Am A Child of Divorce support groups.  These groups are intended children of divorce find hope and healing in the aftermath of their parents’ separation or divorce. Groups are free to participate in and will...

Advise for Moms on Helping Children Heal From Divorce

This article from First Wives World is directed towards moms with advice on how to help their children work through their issues related to the divorce.  I appreciate this article because is does not take the “your kids will happy” route that so many article aimed at...

Resources for Other Adults

CHaT First Board Game for Children of Divorce

CHaT First is a website from the Children and Families in Transition Project a partnership between the Centre for Peace, Conflict and Mediation, Hawke research Institute, University of South Australia and Centacare Catholic Family Services (SA), with generous support from the Telstra Foundation.  It is full of information for children and teens whose parents have separated or divorced. One of the best resources is a printable board game called the CHaT First Board game.

How It Works

The CHaT First Board Game is a question and answer board game that encourages kids and teens to answer questions from one of four decks of cards. Players take turns rolling the dice and moving along the board. This game is not about winners and losers but about the experience shared together.

Who is It For?

This is for all children who have experienced, or are experiencing, their parents divorce. It will also benefit parents and other adults who want to help those kids.

Resource: Emotion Wheels

Emotion wheels can be great tools for helping you to figure out what your feeling, introduce you to new emotions and help you to figure out what emotions might be underlying why you’re feeling. This first wheel was created by Dr. Gloria Wilcox who is a licensed...

Teen Between: Support For Teenagers of Separated Parents

Teen Between is a resource out of Ireland designed to help teens from divorcing families and to help parents and schools to help teens through the divorce process.  Teen Between offers in person counseling services all around the country of Ireland.  They also have an...

Helping Infants and Toddlers Adjust to Divorce (MU Extension)

From MU Extension at the University of Missouri-Columbia, this resource specifically addresses how divorce impacts infants and toddlers.  Too many people believe that divorce does not impact these kids because they are young.  This couldn’t be further from the truth....

Helping Children Understand Divorce (MU Extension)

From MU Extension at the University of Missouri-Columbia, the purpose of this resource is to provide parents and other adults with guidance on how to help children understand their parents’ divorce.  It includes information on how to tell children about divorce and...

Activities for Helping Children Deal With Divorce (MU Extension)

From MU Extension at the University of Missouri-Columbia, this resources suggests a multitude of activities that parents can do with their children to “help them work through their feelings, concerns and frustrations regarding the divorce.”  Though specifically...

Register For An Online Support Group for Teen Children of Divorce

We are please to officially announce the beginning of I Am A Child of Divorce support groups.  These groups are intended children of divorce find hope and healing in the aftermath of their parents’ separation or divorce. Groups are free to participate in and will...

Free Books for Children of Divorce

Donald Harting is a child of divorce.  His parents separated when he was eight years old and divorced when he was 15.  He knows what it is like to lose an intact family and deal with the repercussions of divorce.  As a way to honor his parents, he has built a living...