My parents are going through some things and i wish i could stop them and get things back to normal, when they actually loved each other instead of fighting with each other and things would go back to the way they used to be about 2 weeks ago.
I know what you’re going through is so hard, and I can only guess how badly you want it to stop and to go back to the way things were. Unfortunately, what they are going through is between them and there is very little that you can actually do. The most important thing for you is to have someone you trust who you can talk to and seek advice from. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
Jean
June 27, 2016 at 10:22 am
I’m 36. My parents divorced when I was 23. Basically, my father had a textbook midlife crisis and took off. both parents have moved on, although I don’t know if that is the correct term to use, bc 13 years later and we are all still hurting whether my brothers and sisters choose to admit it or not.
None of us really have a relationship with my father anymore, and my mom has a boyfriend. He treats her like garbage, she won’t listen to us. She’s told us numerous times in the last 3 years that it’s over and she’s leaving him. Then he’ll treat her nice for a few days and she decides to stay. Then, she gets mad at us for not believing that he’s changing and believing that God can change people. Then blames us not liking him bc he’s not our father and he’s the one we should have a problem with bc he broke up our family. It has been a vicious cycle for years and years and years. Sounds exhausting, right? My faith is in God and it’s why I keep most of this in and I love my mom and it kills me when she puts up a wall. My mom truly believes that God wants her to be with this man even though he has denounced any sort of religion, which is why she hasnt married him yet. I feel like I am at my whit’s end. I pray and I pray and I pray – for peace and understanding – if this is truly what God wants. But I feel like I’m going to snap. My emotions are stuck in this vicious cycle. Is there anyone out there that is like me? I’m exhausted.
I think there are probably more people out there like you than you could possible imagine. What you are describing is the result of a traumatic experience in your life that needs to be grieved. I would encourage you to find someone, or a group (perhaps at a local church) where you can talk through your grief and share what you’re feeling with someone else. It is not unusual to carry the pain of a parents divorce into adulthood if it is not dealt with properly when you are a child. Let me know if there is anything we can do here a I Am A Child of Divorce to help.
My parents are going through some things and i wish i could stop them and get things back to normal, when they actually loved each other instead of fighting with each other and things would go back to the way they used to be about 2 weeks ago.
Carmella,
I know what you’re going through is so hard, and I can only guess how badly you want it to stop and to go back to the way things were. Unfortunately, what they are going through is between them and there is very little that you can actually do. The most important thing for you is to have someone you trust who you can talk to and seek advice from. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
I’m 36. My parents divorced when I was 23. Basically, my father had a textbook midlife crisis and took off. both parents have moved on, although I don’t know if that is the correct term to use, bc 13 years later and we are all still hurting whether my brothers and sisters choose to admit it or not.
None of us really have a relationship with my father anymore, and my mom has a boyfriend. He treats her like garbage, she won’t listen to us. She’s told us numerous times in the last 3 years that it’s over and she’s leaving him. Then he’ll treat her nice for a few days and she decides to stay. Then, she gets mad at us for not believing that he’s changing and believing that God can change people. Then blames us not liking him bc he’s not our father and he’s the one we should have a problem with bc he broke up our family. It has been a vicious cycle for years and years and years. Sounds exhausting, right? My faith is in God and it’s why I keep most of this in and I love my mom and it kills me when she puts up a wall. My mom truly believes that God wants her to be with this man even though he has denounced any sort of religion, which is why she hasnt married him yet. I feel like I am at my whit’s end. I pray and I pray and I pray – for peace and understanding – if this is truly what God wants. But I feel like I’m going to snap. My emotions are stuck in this vicious cycle. Is there anyone out there that is like me? I’m exhausted.
Jean,
I think there are probably more people out there like you than you could possible imagine. What you are describing is the result of a traumatic experience in your life that needs to be grieved. I would encourage you to find someone, or a group (perhaps at a local church) where you can talk through your grief and share what you’re feeling with someone else. It is not unusual to carry the pain of a parents divorce into adulthood if it is not dealt with properly when you are a child. Let me know if there is anything we can do here a I Am A Child of Divorce to help.