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How Can I Deal With All This Anger?

Race TrackAnger is a very common reaction in children whose parents have separated or divorced.  When you do not deal with your anger, it can become very destructive, and when you let it out in the wrong way, you can hurt yourself or someone else or find yourself in trouble.  In the past, you may have had people tell you that you need to slow down and pause when you get angry.  That’s probably good advice, but today we are going to look at a way to deal with anger that involves speeding up.  When you get angry remember to win the RACE against anger with this four step plan:

STEP #1: RECONGNIZE YOUR ANGER

The first step in addressing your anger is to recognize when you are angry.  Pay attention to what your body feel like when you get angry.  Do your shoulders tense up?  What does your face look like when you’re angry?  How do you feel deep in your stomach when you’re angry?  You might want to use the anger page from our My Feelings Workbook to help you understand how your body reacts to anger.  Other things you will want to keep track are the things that make you angry and how angry you get.  You can use the Anger-ometer to keep track of this for a week to note patterns in your anger.  By understanding your anger, you will be in a better position to deal with it.

STEP #2: ADDRESS YOUR ANGER

It is important that you address any anger that you may be feeling.  It is easy to just write off your anger or to bury it deep inside.  Both of these options will lead to long term problems.  Anger which is not dealt with will only fester and grow until it eventually comes out.  Anger buried deep inside and not dealt with is like a volcano just waiting to erupt.

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May 7, 2013by Wayne Stocks

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