In this article from Huffington Post, Shanon Bradley-Colleary shares an important first hand account on the importance of her parents getting along after their divorce.  So many times, children of divorce are left reeling and wondering why they even exist in the face of their parents divorce.  Ms. Bradley-Colleary’s experience was what you might call a success story:

Sitting at a table listening to my parent’s talk about these escapades — with my stepmom laughing along — made me feel like I am something more than a beloved mistake. They had a history and a story that had nothing to do with me, but everything to do with me becoming the person I am today.

I love my parents — the three I have remaining and my stepdad Guido who is gone, but has left his mark on me too. Despite all of my poor-me-child-of-divorce-violin-in-A-minor sonatas, I had great parents. I have great parents. And I’m grateful, grateful, grateful that they love each other. Thanks mom and dad.

ARTICLE LINK: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/shannon-colleary/when-your-divorced-parent_b_3007254.html

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Divorce is hard on kids, and it takes time for children to adjust to the divorce of their parents.  The fact is, they may never fully adjust.  However, equally stressful to children of divorce can be when their parents begin to date and especially if they remarry.  Many stepparents have faced the battle of trying to relate to, and form a relationship with, their stepkids.  This article from HuffPost asked several “experts” in the field for their advice on how stepparents can “create a healthy, unhurried relationship with their stepkids.”

LINK: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/03/26/stepparent-advice-how-to_n_2951878.html

This article from cozi.com explores how parents can use modern technology to stay in touch with their kids even when those kids are not living under the same roof.  There are signs that perhaps these advances are having a positive impact.  The article explains:

In a study on nonresidential fathers, researcher Paul Amato from Pennsylvania State University found that the percentage of nonresidential fathers being involved with their children more than tripled from 8 percent in the 1970s to 26 percent in 2000s.

In the days of Skype and Facetime and Google Hangouts, there is no reason that parents shouldn’t be seeing their kids on a regular basis (even if it is on a computer screen)!

LINK: http://www.cozi.com/live-simply/honey-your-dads-skype-how-technology-making-parenting-easier-divorced-families

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Although you can’t eliminate the impact of divorce on your kids, working together and following some basic rules can make post-divorce life easier on your kids. Rosalind Sedacca shares seven keys to making your co-parenting relationship work for your kids following a divorce.

LINK: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/rosalind-sedacca/cooperative-coparenting-k_b_2737385.html?utm_hp_ref=divorce

The teen years can be a particularly hard time for children to experience the divorce of their parents.  This article from Risa Garcon explains why and offers some practical advice to both parents and teens.

LINK: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/risa-garon/adolescence-and-divorce-h_b_2728668.html

This article is a little bit on the simplistic side when it comes to advice about dating after a divorce, but if you are in that position it does offer some solid advice for how to make it easier on your kids.

LINK: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/10/03/dating-with-kids-5-ground_n_1911152.html?utm_hp_ref=divorce&ir=Divorce

Resisting change is a natural part of being human. For teenagers that resistance is compounded by a tendency to test boundaries and rock the status quo. Divorce or separation naturally makes all children feel powerless over their circumstances. For teens, who are feeling their oats and less likely to listen to parental authority, this is especially hard to accept.

Thus writes Rosalind Sedaca in this important article about why divorce is hard on teenagers.

LINK: http://articles.pubarticles.com/divorce-is-tough-even-tougher-on-teens-1303968010,161534.html