Welcome to I Am A Child of Divorce. We’re glad you’re here. On this site you will find resources and a community dedicated to helping children to understand and heal from their parents’ divorce or separation.
One of the questions that comes up more than any other after parents separate is, what do I do if I don’t like the person my parent is dating? You can find some ideas here, here and here if you find yourself in that situation.
But, what if that person your Mom or Dad is still with is the person that caused the break up of your parents in the first place. Maybe the guy your Mom is with is the guy she cheated on your Dad with. Maybe your Dad’s new girlfriend is the woman he left your mom for in the first place. Maybe both of your parents are dating (or remarried to) the person they left your other parent for. How do you deal with that?
Let’s start by acknowledging the pain and the hurt that this situation causes. When your parents split up, it hurts! When you’re left to pick up the pieces and trying to figure out how to move on with life, it causes pain, confusion, stress and so much more. The loss of your family (as you knew it) hurts, and it is a loss that must be grieved.
There are thousands of kids whose parents get divorced every week. Add to that the number of kids whose parents split up even though they were never married, and you wouldn’t think it would be too hard to find people who are dealing with similar experiences. Despite all that, many times when our parents split up we feel like the only one in the world going through it. It seems like there is no where to turn and no one to talk to.
That’s one of the reasons we created I Am A Child of Divorce – so kids and teens whose parents are split up would have a place they could go to find information and other people who have at least some idea what you are going through. To do that, we’ve created all kinds of ways for you to connect and to begin to heal from your parents’ split. We want to bring some of those ways to your attention. Some are new resources, some have been totally redone to meet your needs better, and some have been around from day one. Regardless, here are a few ways you can connect with others and get help as you deal with the fall out from your parents’ split:
This activity book was developed and published by Cafcass (Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service) in England. “Every year Cafcass helps over 140,000 children and young people who are going through care or adoption proceedings, or whose parents have separated and are unable to agree about future arrangements for their children. Cafcass is the voice of children in the family courts and helps to ensure that children’s welfare is put first during proceedings.”
How It Works
This pdf activity book is colorfully illustrated and offers older kids and teens activities to complete in addition to answering questions they might have about their parents’ divorce. This pamphlet offers very basic information to educate and help older kids and teens dealing with these difficult circumstances.
Who is It For?
This book is specifically designed for older children and teens.
We officially launched our online support groups for teens from disrupted homes back in 2013. We are currently in the process of tweaking that original reformat and relaunching our groups as a series a self-guided interviews and other resources. You’ll be able to work at your own pace and then use our Chat Room, Ask Us and other features to talk to someone about what you’re learning. Do it at your own pace and focus on the areas that you need the most! We’ll let you know as soon as it’s ready to go! You can visit our calendar page for a complete listing of upcoming chats.
The “My Feelings Workbook” has consistently been our most popular resource here on I Am A Child of Divorce. It is a vehicle for children of divorced and disrupted homes to identify, name and understand the emotions they are feeling during or after the separation of their parents. Make sure to download this free e-book (or individual pages to print).
Make sure to check out our Calendar for a complete list of upcoming chats, events and other happenings at I Am A Child of Divorce. Don’t miss out!