Welcome to I Am A Child of Divorce. We’re glad you’re here. On this site you will find resources and a community dedicated to helping children to understand and heal from their parents’ divorce or separation.
In an earlier article, we looked at why it is so important to forgive people who have hurt us: Should I Forgive My Parents for What They Have Done? In this article, we will look at some specific things to keep in mind and steps you can take to forgive even when it’s...
When your parents split up, it’s easy to blame them and be angry about it. After all, they (or at least one of them) didn’t ask you what you wanted. Chances are you have been angry about that at some point. You might have talked to someone who suggested that you need...
One of the questions that comes up more than any other after parents separate is, what do I do if I don’t like the person my parent is dating? You can find some ideas here, here and here if you find yourself in that situation.
But, what if that person your Mom or Dad is still with is the person that caused the break up of your parents in the first place. Maybe the guy your Mom is with is the guy she cheated on your Dad with. Maybe your Dad’s new girlfriend is the woman he left your mom for in the first place. Maybe both of your parents are dating (or remarried to) the person they left your other parent for. How do you deal with that?
Let’s start by acknowledging the pain and the hurt that this situation causes. When your parents split up, it hurts! When you’re left to pick up the pieces and trying to figure out how to move on with life, it causes pain, confusion, stress and so much more. The loss of your family (as you knew it) hurts, and it is a loss that must be grieved.
We officially launched our online support groups for teens from disrupted homes back in 2013. We are currently in the process of tweaking that original reformat and relaunching our groups as a series a self-guided interviews and other resources. You’ll be able to work at your own pace and then use our Chat Room, Ask Us and other features to talk to someone about what you’re learning. Do it at your own pace and focus on the areas that you need the most! We’ll let you know as soon as it’s ready to go! You can visit our calendar page for a complete listing of upcoming chats.
The “My Feelings Workbook” has consistently been our most popular resource here on I Am A Child of Divorce. It is a vehicle for children of divorced and disrupted homes to identify, name and understand the emotions they are feeling during or after the separation of their parents. Make sure to download this free e-book (or individual pages to print).
Make sure to check out our Calendar for a complete list of upcoming chats, events and other happenings at I Am A Child of Divorce. Don’t miss out!